I think I've become codependent

You realize your identity has become completely wrapped up in their addiction and recovery. You feel responsible for their emotions, behaviors, and outcomes. Your own needs, interests, and wellbeing have disappeared as you focus entirely on managing their addiction.

Signs of codependent patterns:

• Your mood depends entirely on their mood and behavior
• You feel responsible for their recovery success or failure
• You've lost touch with your own interests, friends, and needs
• You make excuses for their behavior to others
• You feel guilty when you do things for yourself
• You monitor, control, or manage their recovery efforts

Breaking codependent patterns:

• Focus on your own healing and growth, not theirs
• Set boundaries around what you will and won't do
• Rebuild your own identity separate from their addiction
• Stop managing consequences that belong to them
• Reconnect with friends, interests, and activities you've abandoned
• Practice saying "that's not my responsibility" when appropriate

1. Identify specific codependent behaviors you want to change

1. Start small: Choose one area where you'll stop over-functioning

1. Reconnect with one old friend or interest you've neglected

1. Set daily time for activities that are just for you

1. Practice the phrase: "I trust you to handle that yourself"

Intense anxiety when you stop controlling or managing their recovery. They may increase problematic behavior when you stop rescuing them from consequences. Guilt about "being selfish" when you focus on your own needs. Gradual peace as you realize you can love them without losing yourself.

East Point Behavioral Health: (855) 887-6237 - Individual therapy for codependency patterns

Al-Anon/CoDA: Support groups specifically for codependency recovery

Individual Therapy: Rebuild your identity and learn healthy relationship patterns